Manage Your Anger – 6 Great Tips

All of us have had moments of anger in our lives. I know I certainly have and expect you have, too.

Anger is normal, but some people have trouble controlling it. This can create lots of negative effects. It can ruin relationships, careers, or even lead to crime.

It is important to learn to control and deal with your anger. These suggestions may help you to learn that control.

1. Close friends or family members are often understanding and easy to TALK to. Do you have someone like that in your life? Ask them if they would be willing to listen. Talking when you are angry allows you to tell your side of the story and tell why you are angry. But a good friend will be able to not only listen but also give you a different perspective – maybe something you have not thought about. Talking it out can help you to sort through all the issues involved with your anger.

2. During a fit of anger, WRITE down your thoughts and feelings. No one talks back so it is easier to get things off your chest. Writing can also help you identify different “triggers” that cause your outbursts. Writing by hand or on your computer both work well.

3. Have you ever been so angry that you wanted to do something physical to that person? Really “take it out” on him? Try working out extra hard at the gym – punch that heavy bag in there. If nothing else, find a large, rather stiff pillow, and have it out with the pillow. It is amazing how this will release that angry energy and you’ve hurt no one in the process.

4. I know this is difficult, but taking a VACATION or getting away from the situation and spending some alone time works really well. By removing yourself from the environment that causes your anger and frustration, you will see things in a new light. You will probably find some solutions to your problem, too.

5. Some people are comfortable using PRAYER and MEDITATION to help deal with their anger. By being along with your thoughts when you pray or meditate, you are finding a way to release tension. By letting go of your anger and negative thoughts, you can change your life around to the positive.

6. You might also try some deep breathing exercises, any kind of physical exercise, getting more sleep, getting yourself outside to enjoy nature, learning to laugh, and either playing an instrument or listening to music. All of these are great methods for releasing your anger and therefore learning to manage your anger.

Using some or these ways to manage your anger can help you to avoid the adverse consequences of uncontrolled anger. Learn to control your anger. You and those you love will be much happier.

Searching for more resources to help with managing your anger or the anger of a loved one? Click here for some great programs and books. It is possible to learn to control your anger. Writer Jeanene Fisher enjoys teaching others how to live a positive life.